I try to go to the grocery store and run all my errands while my kids are in MDO or at home. Sometimes, they just cannot happen. Sometimes, there are not enough hours in the day. And so, they must go with me. I load them up, drive to the store, get them all 3 loaded into the buggy and say a prayer for a smooth trip inside. We go over the store rules- No hitting, no fussing and no getting out of the buggy. I make the kids repeat this over and over on our way in, in hopes they will remember. Good luck, right?
We make our way up and down the aisles, while I corral all three to stay put. I open a bag of Goldfish, just to give them a snack to keep them occupied. I debate on this but then decide it's worth it and I'll just pay for the half-eaten bag at the check-out. They drop a few crackers on the floor and they get smashed. An older woman walks by me and rolls her eyes. I get several "You sure have your hands full" comments. I referee a fight between the two big kids, explain to my daughter why we can't get 5 bags of cookies, avoid the toy aisle and try to check off the items on my list.
We finally make it to the checkout counter, the kids throw things up on the belt. I hope nothing breaks. Sometimes the check out lady is friendly, sometimes she is not. The bag guy laughs at my kids as they try to escpae and I'm threatening them to stay calm for a few more minutes! We are almost done! I look back and see a trail of Goldfish on the floor behind us. I apologize to the store employee and she gives me "the look". The lady behind me looks like she is going nuts because she has to wait for my endless supply of groceries to get bagged. We finally are bagged up, I pay and we embark out the door.
We load up the groceries, load up and buckle each child, push the cart back to it's place and climb in the journey home, where I get to unload groceries, put everything up and contain children while doing so!
Moral of the story---Please be nice to other moms you see in the grocery store just trying to make it through, at the restaurant when you see a toddler having a melt down and when there is food under the highchair. Please understand that this is her phase of life to corral, train and take care of her children. Please remember that you were there once. And Moms, remember, this too shall pass and it won't be like this for long. And for Pete's sake, just open the bag of Goldfish.
,It's summertime. It's hot. School starts in a month. That means it's time for family vacations and all those pretty photos of gorgeous places and happy children? Right? Not always so. If you have ever taken kids on a trip, you know that it's anything but easy, relaxing and enjoyable. More realistically, it's tiring, hard and sometimes you just want to pull your hair out. We currently have three kids under the age of 4, so you could say we live in a constant state of chaos.
We have been traveling with our children since they were little babies. Our youngest, Baker, is about to take his fourth trip (by plane) and he is almost 16 months old. We like to travel and see new places, we have conferences out of state several times each year and we think it's important for our children to see new places. I think it's so exciting for all of us to experience adventures together! Last year, we went to Disney World when the kids were 3, 2 and 12 weeks old. It was hot, busy and crazy. But the kids had a blast and it's a fun journey to add to the scrapbook.
My mom and I recently took a trip to Pawhuska, OK to The Pioneer Woman Mercantile. This was our second trip there and I loved it once again. We took all three kids with us this time. Things were chaotic, of course, but we made it through and had a lot of fun. I have learned to plan the day around the kids, not you. Schedule in fun activities to ensure the kids' moods stay happy and positive. We threw in a trip to the splash pad on our trip, which the kids enjoyed and we all got to cool down for a few minutes. It's also important to keep the kiddos hydrated and full. No one, I repeat, no one wants a cranky toddler. I also try to squeeze in nap time when needed, which can be super challenging. Even if it means driving around while the munchkins get some shut eye, it's totally worth it!
Our next family trip with the five of us will extend across three states. We will fly into Montana and drive across Glacier National Park. I am so excited to see the pretty mountains and scenery! We will then drive to Idaho and drop off our car for a week-long stay in Idaho at a Lake Resort for a State Farm Trip. my husband's company. After this is completed, we will go on to Washington state to catch a plane back to OKC. While I know this trip will be full of memories made, it will also test our patience, make us question our sanity and long for home. We have already discussed that we need to "get our game faces on". By this, we mean that we have to get our minds right, develop a strategy and be prepared. For me, this means a few things. I have learned a lot while traveling with babies for the past almost 5 years! Here are my tips:
1) Be prepared- as much as possible. Have your itinerary planned out so that you are not stressing while en route. And don't worry if things don't go exactly according to plan. There are some things you cannot control!
2) Flying with babies is actually pretty convenient. Airlines make traveling with your kids almost seamless. You can push your strollers right up to the gate, along with a car seat. You can also check your pack-n-play and other baby items. I always "wear" the youngest baby through the airport and that frees my hands up.
3) Enjoy the ride and don't sweat the small stuff. Don't expect the kids to be perfect. Don't expect a picture-perfect time. I can promise you, it will not be. Just do your best to have a good time and help your kids have fun!
I'll be posting family vacation photos soon. I can promise you- they won't always be perfect, but they will be "real".
We all know what it's like in the summertime when you're a mom. Our kids are with us ALL THE TIME. We don't get much time to ourselves. Our lives revolve around being a shuttle, a referee and a caretaker. That's how my summer has felt over the last few weeks, as my babies' Mother's Day Out program wrapped up at the end of June. My summer has been a blur of dance camp, swim lessons, snacks, naps, laundry, and working a lot from home!
When we are trying to balance work and mom life, the two cannot help but intersect. I'm sorry if you happen to hear a random cry from a baby when you call me! Eek. I try to run away and hide from the kiddos when my phone rings. I try to escape to the front porch, or a closet. But sometimes they find me. I believe they think I'm playing hide-and-go seek! Little do they know their Momma is trying to find a quiet corner for a two-minute conversation.
I'm keeping it real this summer as I "Mom Hard, Wife Hard and Work Hard". On my two designated work days, I wake up excited and anxious to get out of the house, put on my pretty dress and show houses, make phone calls or attend meetings! It's exhilerating!
I'm also super happy when I'm watching my kids swim after a week of swimming lessons, watching my daughter dance after being in camp all week, going on a bike ride with all three babes with me! It's a good life, whether I'm workin' or mommin'. And for this life, I'm thankful.
Take a deep breath, Mommas. School and MDO starts back in a month! Until then, enjoy the time with your sweet ones. It really does fly by!
I have this idea. Is it a pipe dream? Maybe. But I think it is possible. What if we women gathered together, enjoyed each other, learned and inspired each other. What if we decided to help each other? We each have individual talents and abilities, that much is for sure. What if we used those to help one another? That's my plan.
My Real Estate Team is all about empowering women to take control of their businesses. We are all moms, wives and business owners. We are also all friends. I don't have time for cattiness. Nor do I allow it. My "tribe" is built allow women who "get it" and don't mess with the gossip. When you surround yourself with women like this, life becomes much more enjoyable. Shown above is my team members and two of my best friends, Tiffany and Becky, at a Real Estate Convention in Phoenix this past Spring.
When I decided to start this blog and podcast, I had the goal of creating a space where moms and all women could share their stories and encourage others. I am so excited about the line-up of ladies that will be featured on upcoming podcasts. They are funny, full of talent and will hopefully help the listeners feel inspired! They are from all walks of life with different backgrounds and each one brings a different story to the table. I cannot wait to share their stories with you!
I am also planning the first "Women's Gathering". It will be a brunch at my home, where we will eat some good food, mingle and discuss. There will also be several booths available for shopping. These are all owned by women for women. These booths range from LulaRoe, Scentsy, Mark Kay and all things "girly" in between. If you would like an invite, please leave a comment or send me a message. This will help everyone participating to get their products out there, boost their confidence and the women partaking can have a fun shopping day!
Over the next few months, I hope to empower other mompreneurs, and women overall, to chase their dreams. After all, the Lord uses those who are willing.
When my house is clean, I feel calmer. When my kids are happily playing outside, I feel proud and at peace. When I'm caught up on work, I feel productive. So why do we allow so much clutter into our lives?
I read an bible verse and my devotional this morning. It really struck a chord with me and I loved it. Here it is: "She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness". Proverbs 31:27
Now I know the Proverbs 31 is a bit crazy and it seems she can do it all! I view her as an example of what we can strive to be. It's not that we have to strive for perfection, but for progress.
Living in achievement mode is what keeps me going. Achieving makes me feel empowered. The need to achieve is also my kryptonite. I think this can be useful however because I can help others tackle their achievements. And this brings me joy.
Sometimes it's just easier to think about doing things that actually doing them, right? Dreaming of the things we could do is easier than actually putting them into practice. It doesn't have to be.
I challenge you today to do one thing that you have been wanting to do. Cross something off your list that will make you feel proud. It's amazing what crossing something off your list will do for your mindset. So---just do it! Clean out your closet. Decorate that wall that you already have a vision for in your mind. Get the laundry all caught up. Start somewhere. Ask for help. Get it done. You'll be glad you did.